Let us share our experiences with you, to give an insight as to why we feel so passionate about Pride Angel and helping our members achieve their dream of becoming parents.
Erika and Karen both have personal experience of bringing a child into the world as a lesbian using donor conception, hence they understand the struggle that many single, lesbian, gay and infertile couples face while desperately wanting to become parents.
I always wanted to be a mum and could not see my future without children. Being in a same-sex relationship meant that we actively had to investigate the options. We discussed the option of donor insemination, my partner wished for us to use an anonymous sperm donor, through a sperm bank. I could totally understand her reservations about using a known donor and the complications this may cause, however I wanted my child to know the identity of their father. The other important reason was that I wanted to know more about the donor's personality and general health. After a year of discussions we chose a friend of the family to act as the donor. We met with the donor and discussed health screening and infection testing. After the tests came back with the all clear, the inseminations began. After three months of trying, and being anxious over the thought of it not working, I became pregnant and was naturally overjoyed! My daughter is now 20 years, she is an inspiration, a wonderful well balanced young lady, having plenty of people in her life who love her. I have no regrets about using a known donor, but would have found the whole experience far less stressful if there had been a service like Pride Angel years ago. This is the reason why we want to help people in the same situation meet the right co-parent or donor and get all the right health screening and legal advice they need.
Becoming a mum is something I had always dreamt of and through Pride Angel we were able to find our perfect sperm donor. After conceiving through home insemination I gave birth to our baby daughter in November 2017. We opted for a home birth in water, with a 'one to one' midwife. Through hypno-birthing I was able to give birth naturally without any intervention or pain relief, something which we believe enabled our baby to be born in a more relaxed manner. Our daughter is now 3years and a healthy and happy light girl full of energy. It was important for us to choose a donor who was happy to keep in touch with our daughter and be part of her life like an 'uncle type' figure. We decided that our donor would be called 'daddy' to make it easier for her to tell her friends at pre-school that she has a dad and two mums. Our donor has seen our daughter three times so far. Contact may have been more often but our donor moved abroad with work, so he now visits when back in the UK. We are pleased that we have also had contact with our donor's parents who only live an hour away and are known as 'nanny and grandad' We believe that the more love the better and that our daughter knowing her biological father and grandparents will help with her identity as she grows up.
Through our personal experience we have aimed to create a service to help people find their right co-parent or donor match, ensuring that they have the right information regarding health screening and legal considerations.
Last updated: 29.11.20