Looking For A Sperm Donor

You can get sperm from a sperm bank/fertility clinic or alternatively you can use a connection service such as Pride Angel to actually meet the sperm donor and arrange for them to donate sperm directly to you, either via home insemination or IUI/IVF at a fertility clinic.

You can use a sperm bank to locate a donor or you can search through our profiles of sperm donors and co-parents who are willing to donate sperm privately free of charge. Some donors do not wish for ongoing contact, others may wish to have occasional contact with the child (or contact such as emails, birthday cards) and some would like to be more involved and wish to co-parent.

This depends on what level of involvement you would like the donor to have with the child. If you do not want the donor to have parental responsibility or see the child you would search for a sperm donor. If you would like the donor to have shared parental responsibilities then you would search for a co-parent. However some sperm donors may wish to see the child occasionally and not have parental responsibility, this is also possible.

Pride Angel has a basic search which allows you to search for a sperm donor or co-parent within selected countries. Our advanced search is unique to Pride Angel and allows you to search specific counties/states and allows you to choose specific characteristics such as eye colour, hair colour and height etc.

The wider your search options are the more chance you have of finding a match.

Recipients can communicate safely using our internal message system through message credits. We recommend you only give personal email addresses or other personal details once you feel happy to do so. 

When communicating with the sperm donor or co-parent it is important to be clear about the level of contact you both wish to have with the child if any? You may also want to ask details about their family history and general questions about themselves in order to find out about them as a person. The donor may have previously donated through clinics and/or directly to other women and have a number of other children. It is important to be able to get access to information about these siblings in the future and to consider the issue of any child/donor conceived adult unknowingly meeting up in the future, with the possible chance of having a relationship.

Yes it is so important to meet the sperm donor in person and make sure all their details about themselves are correct. Do ask to see photographic identification and recent health screening checks. Meeting the donor also allows you to get to know a little more about the person, ensuring that they are the type of person who is right for you. It is important to consider your personal safety when meeting with prospective sperm donors or co-parents. Initially meet in public areas and take a third person along with you.

It is imperative that you get identification from the donor such as a driving license or passport. It is advisable to use fertility clinics for treatment however if you choose not to, it is important to check that the donor has all the necessary health screening tests completed prior to any inseminations.

We only ever recommend using artificial insemination through a fertility clinic or home insemination to achieve pregnancy, provided health screening checks have been performed. We do not recommend that our recipients agree to natural insemination as it carries a greater risk of acquiring sexually transmitted infections. Also natural insemination gives the donor the automatic right as the legal father. It is not true that natural insemination is more successful than home insemination using fresh sperm.

We recommend that if the donor has not had any previous children or they are over the age of 40 years, that they undertake a male sperm test such as our Fertilcount male fertility test, to ensure that they have an adequate sperm count. If there is any uncertaintly in the test result, a sperm count test should ideally be performed through your doctor or fertility clinic.

All sperm donors and co-parents are advised to have health screens at their local GP and infection testing, which can be undertaken free of charge within a Genito-urinary medicine (GUM) clinic. Alternatively your fertility clinic will arrange for sexual health screening if you choose to have fertility treatment through a clinic.

All member’s are advised to get a written legal donor or co-parenting agreement in place before undertaking inseminations. This will help protect your rights in the unfortunate event of a future dispute. Please see our pages on fertility law for further information.

This very much depends on what level of involvement you wish your sperm donor or co-parent to have with the child. By putting the donor’s name on the birth certificate they are effectively the child’s legal father.